Informal poll: How did you meet your last girlfriend/boyfriend?
Question:
eerie rodent said: >Not if I’m there. Ah, 35, my first mid-life crisis. Actually it was 35.8.
eerie, i had no idea you were in your thirties… i thought you were younger than me 
– k i t z – "i’m an educated man, but i cannot understand where i want to go, whether to keep on living or to shoot myself, as it were. so at any rate, i always carry a revolver about with me." http://spinning_plates.tripod.com
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fire said: >Met my last GF on Yahoo,I have a personal as on there,she sent a message,I >sent an Email,with my Yahoo IM ID.We chatted online a few times,a few days >later she gave me her phone number,we talked on the phone for a few more >days and decided to meet up at local bar.We hit it off and sucked face for >about an hour or so afterward.We dated for the past few weeks,but I think >its over now,I haven’t called her in a week and she hasn’t either.It was hot >and heavy in the begining but we cooled off.I wasn’t sure if she was what I >wanted.If anything it was me who let her go.
aw 
how sad. – k i t z – "i’m an educated man, but i cannot understand where i want to go, whether to keep on living or to shoot myself, as it were. so at any rate, i always carry a revolver about with me." http://spinning_plates.tripod.com
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Frank wrote: >>Not at all. I quit caring much about it though. > You’ve never had a gf?? I was sure you did… With your talking about > sex as a really casual thing (well that was my impression)… Or have I
Sex is mostly a casual thing for me. The trouble is to get a girl to have sex with. And no, I didn’t have a gf.
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"eerie rodent of unusual size & typing ability" <ee…@biteme.com> wrote: > restless_scor…@yahoo.com (Restless Scorpio) wrote in > news:c048a704.0311111934.4829bd4c@posting.google.com: > > "ImJustOne" <imj…@one.net> wrote: > >> How old are you Restless? > > Funny you should ask today… I just experienced my first day of 35-ness. > > It wasn’t much different than 34-ness. I may just be that "old guy" > > at the shybie meet, assuming it ever happens. > Not if I’m there. Ah, 35, my first mid-life crisis. Actually it was 35.8.
You are planning of living to the ripe old age of 71.6 then?
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>I am looking for details, not just "we met online" or "we met at a bar" >or "we met through a friend". Details of actual events are inspiring, >at least to the extent that you can picture it actually happening to >yourself. >I am looking for details, not just "we met online" or "we met at a bar" >or "we met through a friend". Details of actual events are inspiring, >at least to the extent that you can picture it actually happening to >yourself.
my last boyfriend and i met at the store that he worked at… i was in there every day for a year, mostly just to see him and talk to him for a minute and buying some cheap little thing, or asking him what such and such did or where something was or whatever… then one night this last february when i was walking over to the store he came out the front door, so i started to walk right past because i wasn’t ready for that, right? he called my name from behind me and told me to wait up… after that i asked him what he was on his way to do and if he wanted to go hear a lousy band at a shitty bar with me. so we did. after that he called me, then we kept meeting up at his store and stuff, and then one day while we were at a restaraunt he introduced me as his girlfriend to a friend who had walked in. we only dated for about 5 or 6 months because there were some HUGE differences in our beliefs… but it was alright in the beginning. it could have been worse. – k i t z – "i’m an educated man, but i cannot understand where i want to go, whether to keep on living or to shoot myself, as it were. so at any rate, i always carry a revolver about with me." http://spinning_plates.tripod.com
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"Restless Scorpio" <restless_scor…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:c048a704.0311111936.79acb009@posting.google.com… > Wow, I never did that. Did you place your own ads or answer > ads?
Only *placed* ads – no way was I going to spend about GBP1.50 to answer each ad via a preium rate phone #
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"Frank" <speeedofso…@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:3fb17398$0$2789$626a54ce@news.free.fr… > You’ve never had a gf?? I was sure you did… With your talking about > sex as a really casual thing
a gf is not required to have sex! ever heard of a ONS?
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"Restless Scorpio" <restless_scor…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:c048a704.0311111227.39b11ebf@posting.google.com… > My apologies to those who haven’t yet met one. Believe me, I know all too > well what that’s like. > I am looking for details, not just "we met online" or "we met at a bar" > or "we met through a friend". Details of actual events are inspiring, > at least to the extent that you can picture it actually happening to > yourself.
I guess I don’t have any details. We met online Through a dating site. Things are going ok. He has a lot of baggage though (weird- I never thought I would find a guy with more baggage than me!) so, it’s kind of a drain. He is always making comments like he is waiting for things to go wrong between us- ‘because it always does’… so I feel like I can’t do anything right. Oh well. We have fun together- but I know he’s not "the one" – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I met my last g/f online. It was on a newsgroup (not this one). We > started e-mailing each other, and decided after four months to meet > in person and go on a vacation together, mainly because neither of us > had anyone to go on vacations with. It wasn’t intended to be romantic, > even though the thought obviously crossed my mind. About half way into > the vacation, she made the first move; otherwise, nothing probably > would’ve happened. But the signs were definitely there leading up to > it. > Three years later (after the end of the relationship), I have been > "intimate" with a few woman, but never anything close to a relationship. > All these women were met online. In the last three years, I’ve also > done more than I ever have in terms of having a quasi-normal social > life. Still, I have a long way to go, and often feel like it is > completely hopeless. I am not sure what keeps me going. Maybe just > the thought that it can’t get any worse than it already is.
Why did it end? You may be feeling down… but by doing these social things you *only* have stuff to GAIN- so be proud of yourself for that. It’s not completely hopeless- it never is.
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"Adrian Boliston" <adr…@boliston.co.uk> wrote: > > I met my last g/f online… > All 4 gf’s so far via free ads in the local paper.
Wow, I never did that. Did you place your own ads or answer ads?
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"Adrian Boliston" <adr…@boliston.co.uk> wrote in news:borm9f$1ht1b4$1@ID- 111900.news.uni-berlin.de: > "Restless Scorpio" <restless_scor…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > news:c048a704.0311111227.39b11ebf@posting.google.com… >> I met my last g/f online… > All 4 gf’s so far via free ads in the local paper.
At work.
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restless_scor…@yahoo.com (Restless Scorpio) wrote in news:c048a704.0311111934.4829bd4c@posting.google.com: > "ImJustOne" <imj…@one.net> wrote: >> How old are you Restless? > Funny you should ask today… I just experienced my first day of 35-ness. > It wasn’t much different than 34-ness. I may just be that "old guy" > at the shybie meet, assuming it ever happens.
Not if I’m there. Ah, 35, my first mid-life crisis. Actually it was 35.8.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Very good question. Though I guess my own answer won’t be of much help. > I’ve had my 2d and last gf in 2000. I had nearly just one male friend. One > day he told me that he knew a girl who was interested in me. I didn’t know > her, but we had been to the same highschool for one year (my last year, her > first). So the 3 of us went to a sort of music festival. She was a bit shy, > but we talked a bit. I was not that much interested in her romantically, but > she was cool… And kind of pretty. But definitely not gorgeous. I didn’t > know what to do. A few days later, we all went to a bar. Then she insisted > *a lot* in going to a club. But I didn’t want to go there without my male > friend (who didn’t want to come). Finally, she insisted so much that my > friend went to the club’s… car park, and then he left, leaving me alone > with her… I thought it would be rude to tell her I wanted to go back home > (all the more that I didn’t even have my car, because the bastard was > supposed to come back with me…). In the club, I also thought it would be > rude not to invite her to dance when the slow dances series started, and all > the guys and gals were dancing together. Then I decided to kiss her (during > the slow dance), and then we exchanged our numbers. Then I thought it would > be rude to dump her. (I prey that she will never ever read that (as we’ve > been together for 6 months…), bloody Usenet archives).
Dont you like women? and why do you insist on carrying around a cockblock?
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -restless_scor…@yahoo.com (Restless Scorpio) wrote in message <news:c048a704.0311111227.39b11ebf@posting.google.com>… > My apologies to those who haven’t yet met one. Believe me, I know all too > well what that’s like. > I am looking for details, not just "we met online" or "we met at a bar" > or "we met through a friend". Details of actual events are inspiring, > at least to the extent that you can picture it actually happening to > yourself. > I met my last g/f online. It was on a newsgroup (not this one). We > started e-mailing each other, and decided after four months to meet > in person and go on a vacation together, mainly because neither of us > had anyone to go on vacations with. It wasn’t intended to be romantic, > even though the thought obviously crossed my mind. About half way into > the vacation, she made the first move; otherwise, nothing probably > would’ve happened. But the signs were definitely there leading up to > it.
where did you go on vacation? ive always wanted to go to spain… > Three years later (after the end of the relationship), I have been > "intimate" with a few woman, but never anything close to a relationship. > All these women were met online. In the last three years, I’ve also > done more than I ever have in terms of having a quasi-normal social > life. Still, I have a long way to go, and often feel like it is > completely hopeless. I am not sure what keeps me going. Maybe just > the thought that it can’t get any worse than it already is.
are you still keeping up with the speed dating? i think you sorta have a negative attitude…i find that when i am feeling happy and centered is when i attract the most amount of people. i do get depressed though. sometimes i assume the worst but you can be surprised. people can be kind. audrey
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"ImJustOne" <imj…@one.net> wrote: > How old are you Restless?
Funny you should ask today… I just experienced my first day of 35-ness. It wasn’t much different than 34-ness. I may just be that "old guy" at the shybie meet, assuming it ever happens. > I met my last gf at work…
[snip] Thanks for sharing. > It was the happiest period of my life.
I can sooooo relate to that statement.
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Restless Scorpio wrote: > My apologies to those who haven’t yet met one. Believe me, I know all too > well what that’s like. > I am looking for details, not just "we met online" or "we met at a bar" > or "we met through a friend". Details of actual events are inspiring, > at least to the extent that you can picture it actually happening to > yourself. > I met my last g/f online. It was on a newsgroup (not this one). We > started e-mailing each other, and decided after four months to meet > in person and go on a vacation together, mainly because neither of us > had anyone to go on vacations with. It wasn’t intended to be romantic, > even though the thought obviously crossed my mind. About half way into > the vacation, she made the first move; otherwise, nothing probably > would’ve happened. But the signs were definitely there leading up to > it. > Three years later (after the end of the relationship), I have been > "intimate" with a few woman, but never anything close to a relationship. > All these women were met online. In the last three years, I’ve also > done more than I ever have in terms of having a quasi-normal social > life. Still, I have a long way to go, and often feel like it is > completely hopeless. I am not sure what keeps me going. Maybe just > the thought that it can’t get any worse than it already is.
We met on a web forum. Basically someone started a thread called "If this place was real, who would you go out with?", and she said me. We exchanged a lot of email, and talked on the phone a bit, but after a few weeks we both realized it wasn’t going to work, with living so far apart, and that we weren’t really suited to each other. So we both decided to end it.
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