inpotence at 21???
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My problem is psychological inpotence. When i’m with my girlfriend, and we are about to have sex, my penis doesnt get hard enough. while masturbating all by myself there is not a problem what so ever. It has allways been this way, and the misery just gets worse!! The reason for this may have something to do with my extra sexual youth as a teenager, when I masturbated very frequently and often got caught for doing it. All the way my adulthood i have been ashamed my sexuality and it seems that it has encountered this problem. We have tried it so many times that only way to solve this is to solve my head, it is not that I didnt get exited or something like that… I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable… So is there anyone who might know how should I approach this problem?? One more time I want to underline that the problem is mental, no physical. THANKS!! * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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Masturbation and intercourse are very different. The fact that you can do one and not the other does not imply psychological problems or performance anxiety. As for Viagra. It doesn’t build a dependence. I used Viagra, then I didn’t, then I did. When I needed it, I used it. Sometimes I didn’t need it and didn’t use it. Remember – just because you can do it via masturbation doesn’t mean that you have a psychological problem. See your doctor, but remember that he may think the same way. In either case, you need something to get you past the current problem – and Viagra can do that, mental or physical. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My problem is psychological inpotence. When i’m with my girlfriend, and we are about to have sex, my penis doesnt get hard enough. while masturbating all by myself there is not a problem what so ever. It has allways been this way, and the misery just gets worse!! The reason for this may have something to do with my extra sexual youth as a teenager, when I masturbated very frequently and often got caught for doing it. All the way my adulthood i have been ashamed my sexuality and it seems that it has encountered this problem. We have tried it so many times that only way to solve this is to solve my head, it is not that I didnt get exited or something like that… I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable… So is there anyone who might know how should I approach this problem?? One more time I want to underline that the problem is mental, no physical. THANKS!! * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My problem is psychological inpotence. When i’m with my girlfriend, and we are about to have sex, my penis doesnt get hard enough. while masturbating all by myself there is not a problem what so ever. It has allways been this way, and the misery just gets worse!! The reason for this may have something to do with my extra sexual youth as a teenager, when I masturbated very frequently and often got caught for doing it. All the way my adulthood i have been ashamed my sexuality and it seems that it has encountered this problem. We have tried it so many times that only way to solve this is to solve my head, it is not that I didnt get exited or something like that… I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable… So is there anyone who might know how should I approach this problem?? One more time I want to underline that the problem is mental, no physical.
Well, what you mean is that the problem is physical, but originates in your brain. But I quibble. At 21, it’s going to be extremely hard for you to realize and accept that your best technique for getting rid of all the anxiety you are feeling is to open up and say what you said just now to your possible lover. "Hey look, I need someone who is sensitive and patient. When I was younger, I…" You get the gist. Now, this said, there is a time and a place for such openness. It’s certainly not on the first date. Not probably on the second or third, either. About the right time to do it is when you know that she cares about you and that she won’t be freaked out by dumping problems on her right away. Early dumping of problems is part of something called "premature intimacy," or, as we like to joke in clubs: TMI, man! Too Much Information! 
So, joking aside, take it easy and slow, and work your way up. Once you’ve levelled with the girl, talk her into working her way up with you. Explore, enjoy touching eachother, and learn to show her what *you* like. In fact, what I recommend is getting some lubricant and teaching her how to masturbate you. You will learn to relax during this period, and also open up and learn to trust her. Since you realize that this is a mental problem (err, I mean neurophysical!! , I think this should all make sense to you. Calm yourself down. Pull the rug out from under your own anxiety. C/
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – writes: I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable… So far, that isn’t proving to be the case. People are not becoming dependant on Viagra. In fact, the opposite is often true, especially in situations where a boost of confidence is what’s needed to get past the anxiety. It might be just what you need. As for the expense, you can reduce that by having the doc write a script for 100mg tabs and splitting them in half or quarters. That lowers your cost to $2-3/dose. Talk it over with your doctor. It might be the temporary "lift" you need.
I keep it around, even though the shots are faster, more reliable and cheaper. There are times when I don’t care about about those details and just want the convenience. An hour of foreplay is a bit short, bu better than 15 minutes or interrupting myself to stick a needle in my dick. It sort of spoils the mood.
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writes: I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you
use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable…
So far, that isn’t proving to be the case. People are not becoming dependant on Viagra. In fact, the opposite is often true, especially in situations where a boost of confidence is what’s needed to get past the anxiety. It might be just what you need. As for the expense, you can reduce that by having the doc write a script for 100mg tabs and splitting them in half or quarters. That lowers your cost to $2-3/dose. Talk it over with your doctor. It might be the temporary "lift" you need. ~~Sue~~
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My problem is psychological inpotence. When i’m with my girlfriend, and we are about to have sex, my penis doesnt get hard enough. while masturbating all by myself there is not a problem what so ever. It has allways been this way, and the misery just gets worse!! The reason for this may have something to do with my extra sexual youth as a teenager, when I masturbated very frequently and often got caught for doing it. All the way my adulthood i have been ashamed my sexuality and it seems that it has encountered this problem. We have tried it so many times that only way to solve this is to solve my head, it is not that I didnt get exited or something like that… I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable… So is there anyone who might know how should I approach this problem?? One more time I want to underline that the problem is mental, no physical. THANKS!!
It’s not true that once you use Viagra you can’t do without it. It tends to build confidence that you can obtain an erection when you need it. It’s not habit forming. You might well profit from seeing a sexual therapist to help get over your sexual hangups. Sounds like you may have your parents to thank for at least some of your problem. -Fred- Visit Fred’s Page of Impotence Information and ASI FAQ’s at: http://www.alt-support-impotence.org/
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You may be able to go lower than quarters to sixth’s or eight’s. If your are going to try anything less than halves I would suggest another method other than a pill cutter. There have been a few posts here of individuals dissolving a 100 mg tab in a measured amount of water and using a 1/4, 1/6 or 1/8th of that before anticipated sex (time determined by you) 25 mg is great for me–I make viagracubes, and thaw one in a liquid, drink and within 30-35 min i’m cummin up. I’m set up to investigate efficacy of 1/6th (17 mg) or 1/8th (13 mg). I, like the other posters have not experienced any dependence upon Viagra. Hey dude–your young–you’re gonna be fine 
. — ~Oreon~Orihus~
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I see you’ve received lots of advice. Let me just add this: It’s obvious your equipment is working okay. It’s just the fact that sex alone, compared to sex with someone else, is quite different. It’s like taking a trip. When you go alone, it’s easy. When there is someone else, you have to make numerous considerations you hadn’t counted on. You’ll find it’s probably just a performance anxiety thing. As you "travel" together you’ll find you’ll get use to each other and everything will be fine. I believe Sue’s suggestion to try Viagra for a little while is just the ticket. Jerry of ASI My problem is psychological inpotence. When i’m with my girlfriend, and
we are about to have sex, my penis doesnt get hard enough. while masturbating all by myself there is not a problem what so ever. It has allways been this way, and the misery just gets worse!! The reason for this may have something to do with my extra sexual youth as a teenager, when I masturbated very frequently and often got caught for doing it. All the way my adulthood i have been ashamed my sexuality and it seems that it has encountered this problem. We have tried it so many times that only way to solve this is to solve my head, it is not that I didnt get exited or something like that… I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable… So is there anyone who might know how should I approach this problem?? One more time I want to underline that the problem is mental, no physical. THANKS!!
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What a really lucid reply. Very commendable.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My problem is psychological inpotence. When i’m with my girlfriend, and we are about to have sex, my penis doesnt get hard enough. while masturbating all by myself there is not a problem what so ever. It has allways been this way, and the misery just gets worse!! The reason for this may have something to do with my extra sexual youth as a teenager, when I masturbated very frequently and often got caught for doing it. All the way my adulthood i have been ashamed my sexuality and it seems that it has encountered this problem. We have tried it so many times that only way to solve this is to solve my head, it is not that I didnt get exited or something like that… I consider Viagra a risk, like the drugs for insomnia for instance. When you use it, you cant do it anymore without it. And that would be expencive and unconfortable… So is there anyone who might know how should I approach this problem?? One more time I want to underline that the problem is mental, no physical. Well, what you mean is that the problem is physical, but originates in your brain. But I quibble. At 21, it’s going to be extremely hard for you to realize and accept that your best technique for getting rid of all the anxiety you are feeling is to open up and say what you said just now to your possible lover. "Hey look, I need someone who is sensitive and patient. When I was younger, I…" You get the gist. Now, this said, there is a time and a place for such openness. It’s certainly not on the first date. Not probably on the second or third, either. About the right time to do it is when you know that she cares about you and that she won’t be freaked out by dumping problems on her right away. Early dumping of problems is part of something called "premature intimacy," or, as we like to joke in clubs: TMI, man! Too Much Information! So, joking aside, take it easy and slow, and work your way up. Once you’ve levelled with the girl, talk her into working her way up with you. Explore, enjoy touching eachother, and learn to show her what *you* like. In fact, what I recommend is getting some lubricant and teaching her how to masturbate you. You will learn to relax during this period, and also open up and learn to trust her. Since you realize that this is a mental problem (err, I mean neurophysical!! , I think this should all make sense to you. Calm yourself down. Pull the rug out from under your own anxiety. C/
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Viagra got me over something similar. I was sick, so "it" didn’t really work for a few months. Then I was a head case about it. Now I can have sex with my girlfriend again because my confidence was restored through viagra. * Sent from AltaVista http://www.altavista.com Where you can also find related Web Pages, Images, Audios, Videos, News, and Shopping. Smart is Beautiful
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Happy for you man!!! Yeah, V is a wonder drug for we men. At 21 you have a bright sexual future ahead that will keep extending as we move forward. ^ ^ ^ ~Oreon~Orihus~
