net addicted wives..
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It’s so true.. I think the problem is, chatting with someone is so much NOT like sitting down and talking with someone, there is no physical presence, no facial features, no way of truly hearing/seeing what the *person* you’re chatting with is saying/typing.. So what happens is, you fill in all those blanks, and you fill them in with the stuff you’d hope that person has, you manufacture a frankenstein monster, except this frankenstein is perfect, without flaw, because after all, you created it. I can see where a real person could pale in comparison to a collection of toy people like that. It doesn’t work, I think it’s very dangerous, and I think that if it is powerful enough to destroy a marriage, then it’s something everyone who is married, or involved and has a partner that is addicted to this behavior really needs to address the problem quickly. Now that my marriage is over, I can see so many things I would have done differently to address the problem, but they all involved activity, actually doing something, and not just hoping "she’ll get sick of it, and then everything will be okay.." And while this hasn’t soured me on women, I’ll never again deal with a woman that has any interest in computers. Live and learn.. JWB <jwbspamkiller3…@excite.com> wrote in message
<news:ibyH6.7899$l5.6288100@newsfeed1.thebiz.net>… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I agree that "chat" can be rather destructive. I don’t chat. Nor do I have > what i would call "friends" online. I like some of the people here, but the > NG is as far as i want it. I have enough friends in real life. > I agree with you – I think married people seeking close friendships online > are just looking for trouble. > — > JWB
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well, don’t rule out all women who have an interest in computers – I mean, after all, YOU are posting to a NG (it’s different, I know 
. But I would shy away from any woman who has "special friends" online that she logs on to "see". — JWB remove spamkiller to reply via e-mail "[enter name here]" <so…@no.spam.here.com> wrote in message news:9cnm5j$9tj$1@plonk.apk.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> It’s so true.. > I think the problem is, chatting with someone is so much NOT like sitting > down and talking with someone, there is no physical presence, no facial > features, no way of truly hearing/seeing what the *person* you’re chatting > with is saying/typing.. So what happens is, you fill in all those blanks, > and you fill them in with the stuff you’d hope that person has, you > manufacture a frankenstein monster, except this frankenstein is perfect, > without flaw, because after all, you created it. I can see where a real > person could pale in comparison to a collection of toy people like that. > It doesn’t work, I think it’s very dangerous, and I think that if it is > powerful enough to destroy a marriage, then it’s something everyone who is > married, or involved and has a partner that is addicted to this behavior > really needs to address the problem quickly. > Now that my marriage is over, I can see so many things I would have done > differently to address the problem, but they all involved activity, actually > doing something, and not just hoping "she’ll get sick of it, and then > everything will be okay.." > And while this hasn’t soured me on women, I’ll never again deal with a woman > that has any interest in computers. Live and learn.. > JWB <jwbspamkiller3…@excite.com> wrote in message > <news:ibyH6.7899$l5.6288100@newsfeed1.thebiz.net>… > > I agree that "chat" can be rather destructive. I don’t chat. Nor do I have > > what i would call "friends" online. I like some of the people here, but > the > > NG is as far as i want it. I have enough friends in real life. > > I agree with you – I think married people seeking close friendships online > > are just looking for trouble. > > — > > JWB
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JWB wrote: > I agree with you – I think married people seeking close friendships online > are just looking for trouble.
Yes, though they may not know they are. Sirius
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the "Net addicted wife" thing is just a bad cause for the marriage but that is a situation on its on, you dont have to see this as "her" trying to hurt you. Online talk can become as devestating for a marriage as , gambling, or any other extreme case where the spouse will feel neglected and treaten like they arnt right there. I see many people talk about "trust" and "confidence" but it’s not only up to the people without these 2. Say ‘i am a woman and i’m married to someone woud kinda feel lazy telling "you just have to trust me". I mean, both parties hav eto work on it. It has to be WORTH it to trust or to be confident with a person, you just dont grab these 2 trendy monsters from the sky you know, it involves critical knowledge of what you want and what you dont want, and what the limits are of what you can put up with. That way you can wash away a littlebit of the insecurity, but it nees 2 to work out and its lazy for the other just to expect to "trust" — Greets, CD "Sirius" <sir…@nowhere.com> wrote in message
news:3AEF9B15.47D4B006@nowhere.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> JWB wrote: > > I agree with you – I think married people seeking close friendships online > > are just looking for trouble. > Yes, though they may not know they are. > Sirius
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